Why Kids Lie???
Updated: Aug 19, 2019
All parents want to give the best upbringing to their child by all means. They try to keep their child away from all kinds of ‘Bad Habits’ but still kids pick up bad habits from piers or friends.
Truth and Consequences -- Why Preschoolers Lie
Little kids don't mean to be dishonest, but lying can be a bad habit. Preschoolers are honest, they lie but they always don’t mean to lie. We have to understand the situation and their mood also. At times they lie because they are bored / bullied / tired / sleepy, etc.
But the truth is all kids lie occasionally. And although lying is a normal part of a child’s development, it’s not something we as parents can overlook. As a parent/guardian, it’s our job to teach honesty. In order to deal with the situation, you need to know
· Why your little Munchkin is lying?
· How to teach him/her to value honesty?
Fib or Flight of Fancy?
Kids this age can come up with some lovely creative story – not to be deceitful but because for the most part, they are still learning what is reality and what is fantasy. If the story is more creative, the child is more creative. Kids between the age of 2-5 years are young to understand exactly what a lie is. Their fairy-tale accounts are the result of an imagination working in high gear, not anything sinister.
When your child tells a lie, use it an opportunity to talk about why being truthful is so important. Calling her a liar / screaming / hitting may cause your child to keep lying to avoid blame.
To encourage truth-telling, try removing the consequences. Say, “No matter what you did, I promise I won't get angry as long as you tell the truth.”
Many kids lie because they know they’ve done something wrong and don’t want to disappoint you and be punished. Focus on what you want your child to learn – being honest. When your child tells the truth about something she’s done wrong be sure to praise her.
If your child starts spinning over-the-top tales about something that never happened – say the time he joined the circus or the fabulous trip your family took the anytime door to Walt Disney World – confront her, but not in an angry way. Being creative is good, but if the child is a big story teller then we as parents have to bring them back to planet earth and reveal the reality.
This wishful thinking is normal for a child this age but still needs to be corrected. I know you wish that really happened.”
Practice What You Preach
In the course of your daily routine, chances are you tell a white lie or two. And that’s OK, for the most part. “Pro-social lies” – avoiding the truth to spare someone’s feelings – are normal and pretty much accepted. But don’t expect your take-everything-literally preschooler to understand.
Set a good example by being honest yourself. It’s never too early to teach your kids honesty. Talk about why it is wrong to lie – that it makes you sad when she says things that aren’t true. When your child realizes that telling the truth is something you value, that’s something they’ll strive to reach.