Nagging - A Strict No No
This is the last part of my blog which talk about positivity and the positive statements--
41. “Would you like to talk about it?” I think you want to discuss about what happened. I am not here to judge anything rather I want to help you in any way possible. This question is inviting without being overbearing or demanding.
42. “What challenge would you like to take on?” It’s through challenges that we learn and grow, so this is one way to encourage your children to view challenges positively. Challenges can be as small as finishing reading a chapter.
43. “I care about you.” This gives them a boost of confidence and about their existence. If you feel awkward about telling your children that you love them, start with this phrase instead. Slowly go on and say ‘ I love you ‘.
44. “What do you think you can do about this?” Instead of solving the problem for your children, ask this question to enable them to solve the problem themselves. Let them be problem solvers in their life. Always make them understand, sitting on the problem is not the solution, brain storm and find a solution.
45. “Will you forgive me?” If I make a mistake, will you be kind enough to forgive me. Beyond apologising, asking for your children’s forgiveness is a powerful way to restore the parent-child relationship. This also gives confidence to your child that it is ok to make mistakes and learn from it.
46. “Tell me more.” This is a simple phrase that encourages your children to share their thoughts and feelings. Have an open discussion with them, it helps.
47. “It’s OK to feel . . .” Rather than tell your children that they shouldn’t feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc. empathise with them and help them to work through their negative emotions. Feelings and emotions are natural. Don't suppress it inside you but let it display but at the right time.
48. “Shall we start over again?” If an argument has broken out between you and your children, ask this question to start the discussion again and fresh. This works as a healer. Learn to forgive and go ahead.
49. “I’m proud to be your parent.” When your children know this, they’ll want to do you proud too. Always try to be kind and always have a positive attitude towars them and their work. Encourage them.
50. “What can I do to be a better parent?” Be prepared to hear an honest answer from your children. But by putting their feedback into practice, you’ll definitely become a better parent. This helps in the bonding process in the long run.
Despite what you may think, children grow up enhancing their own personality. We as parents, we should highlight on making them responsible individuals and better global citizens. Rest trust your children.