It all depends how we treat ourselves. Managing our own emotions are important so that you can teach your kids the same. We can only give what we have inside. It is always important to be happy rather than perfect. If your nature is to be a perfectionist, then don’t be perfectionist all the time.
Be a happy parent. How?
- Start by communicating yourself
- Start by the first point, notice how much closer you feel to your child
- Programming your subconscious
- Revisit your commitment daily
- When u mess up, apologise
to your child and take a positive step in your desired direction.
- Make a small positive change every day.
Wondering from where to begin-
11 commitments will make you a better parent-
- Commit to taking care of yourself and staying centered so you can be the happy, patient, encouraging parent your child deserves.
- Go to bed earlier so you’re better rested.
- Eat healthfully to maintain your mood.
- Pamper your kids sometimes
- Transform any inner negative voices into encouraging ones
- Slow down your pace
- Commit to loving the one you’re with
- The kids who feel loved always thrive in life for exactly who they are
- Every child is unique- making them feel special
- The hard work for us is as parent is accepting who our child is, wants and all
- Cherish the kids for being a better person even while guiding behaviour.
1) Commit to stay connected
Repeatedly connect as separation happens
Hug your child first thing in the morning and when you say good bye
When united, spend 15 minutes solely focused on your child
Laugh and listen more
Have a chat and snuggle at bedtime every night with your child
2) Commit to role modelling respect
Take a deep breath and speak to them respectfully. It is not easy. But stick to the basics. You’re the role model, don’t take it personally, and this too shall pass.
3) Don't clip your child's wings
Your toddler's mission in life is to gain independence. We as parents protect our children too much. We should give them the chance to make mistakes and learn from it. So when she is capable of putting her toys away, clearing her plate from the table, and dressing herself, let her do it. At times the clip will not match the dress or the hair is not combed properly, it is fine. Giving a child responsibility is good for her self-esteem.
4) Don't try to fix everything.
Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. Teaching the child about self-reliance and resilience is very important. When little toddlers fight, let them solve it out. You enter their premises only when they turn physically abusive.
5) Remember that discipline is not punishment.
Enforcing limits is really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them to become competent, caring, and in control. Kids should know what is their limits. When they cross their limits, they are bound to get punished but the intensity of the punishment depends.
6) Pick your battles.
Kids can't absorb too many rules at one go. Rules should be inserted one by one. When kids start to follow one rule completely then insert another rule. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional bad/foul language. Focus on the things that really matter -- meaning no hitting, rude talk, or lying.
7) Create Your Own Quality Time.
Play with your children. Let them choose the activity, and don't worry about rules. Just go with the flow and have fun. That's the name of the game. Read them any of their favourite books.