5 Reasons Your Toddler's Tantrum Is Actually Good
Believe it or not, temper tantrums are an important part of your toddler's emotional health and well-being. Tantrums are treated as nightmares by the parents. But everything has a positive side.
1. Better to cry it out
Tears contain cortisol, the stress hormone. When we cry, we are literally releasing stress from our bodies. Tears have also been found to improve emotional well-being, provided there's a loved one close for support. You may have noticed that when your toddler is on the brink of a tantrum, she is angry, frustrated, or cranky. You may have also noticed that after the storm has passed, she is in a much better mood. It helps if we let our kids tantrum without trying to interrupt the process so they get to the end of their feelings. "Crying is not the hurt, but the process of becoming unhurt”, a famous author said.
2. Crying may help your child learn.
"Learning is as natural to children as breathing," says Patty Wipfler, the founder of Hand in Hand Parenting. "But when a child isn't able to concentrate or listen, there's usually an emotional issue that's blocking his progress." Many Researchers think that –“ learning to take place, a child must be happy and relaxed, and expressing emotional upset is all part of this process.
3. Your child may sleep better
Sleep is the best healer for both children and adults. Sleep problems often occur because we parents think the best approach to tantrums and upsets is to try to avoid them. Then, a child's pent-up emotions bubble up when his brain is at rest. Allowing your child to get to the end of her tantrum improves her emotional well-being and may help her sleep through the night. It is always better to vent it out. The healing process is faster.
4. Saying ‘no’ is a part of the upbringing
Your child should be prepared to hear ‘no’ sometimes if not always. Chances are the tantrum your toddler is having is because you said 'no.' Don’t console your child too much while in the middle of the tantrum. And that's a good thing! Saying 'no' gives your child clear boundaries about acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Sometimes we may avoid saying 'no' because we don't want to deal with the emotional melodrama but we can stand firm with our limits while still offering, love, empathy, and hugs. Saying 'no' means you aren't afraid of the messy, emotional side of parenting.
5. Tantrums bring you closer together.
At the time of tantrum, your child may not want to be close to u but the moment you shift and you are not visible to your child, he / she wants you immediately. It may be hard to believe, but watch and wait. Your angry child may not look like she appreciates you being there, but she does. Let her get through the storm of her feelings without trying to stop or 'fix' them. Don't talk too much but offer a few kind, reassuring words. Offer hugs. Your child will soak up your unconditional acceptance and feel closer to you afterwards.
Hopefully got an inside picture, why tantrums are good.