10 Tips On Improving Parenting Skills
The Concept of “Monkey See Monkey Do”. It is applicable to humans. Human is a special species in part because we can learn by imitation. We are programmed to copy other’s actions to understand them and to incorporate them into our own. Children watch and copy their actions very carefully. If you want to teach respect, then respect your child, show them positive behavior and attitude, have empathy towards your child’s emotion — and your child will follow suit.
Show your love as much as possible. There is no such thing as loving your child too much. Loving them cannot ever spoil them. Only what you choose to do (or give) in the name of love can — things like material indulgence, low expectation and over-protection. When these things are given in place of real love, that’s when you’ll have a spoiled child.
Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending quality time with them, having a cooking session with them and listening to their issues seriously.
Sing that silly song. Have a tickle marathon. Go to the park. Laugh with your child. Ride through an emotional tantrum. Solve a problem together with a positive attitude.
Not only do these positive experiences create good connections in your child’s brain, but they also form the memories of you that your child carries for life.
Being a good parent means you need to teach your child the moral in what is right and what is wrong. Setting limits and being consistent are the keys to good discipline. Be kind and firm when enforcing those rules. Focus on the reason behind the child’s behavior. And make it an opportunity to learn for the future, rather than to punish for the past.
Communication is an important essence while the child is growing up. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully. By keeping an open line of communication, you’ll have a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem.
But there’s another reason for communication — you help your child integrate different parts of his/her brain. Integration is similar to our body in which different organs need to coordinate and work together to maintain a healthy body. When different parts of the brain are integrated, they can function harmoniously as a whole, which means less tantrums, more cooperative behavior and more empathy.
#5 Reflecting Parenthood
Many of us want to parent differently from our parents. Even those who had a happy childhood may want to change some aspects of how they were brought up.
But very often, when we open our mouths, we speak just like our parents did. It is not by purpose but some behavior comes genetically to us.
Reflecting on our own childhood is a step towards understanding why we parent the way we do.
Make note of things you’d like to change and think of how you’d do it differently in real scenario. Try to be mindful and change your behavior the next time those issues come up.
Don’t give up if you don’t succeed at first. It takes practice. Lots of practice and persistence.
#6 Your Own Well Being
It is very important to pay attention to your own well-being.
Often times, things such as your own health or the health of your marriage are kept on the back burner when a child is born. If you don’t pay attention to them, they will become bigger problems down the road.
Take good care of yourself physically and mentally. Don’t be irritated with small things in life. Stop complaining. Take time to strengthen the relationship with your spouse. If these two areas fails, your child will suffer, too.
For upbringing a child both parents play an equal important role. We cannot say, mother is most important. It is both parents responsibility which needs to be shared from time to time.
#7 Keeping Perspective
Instead of helping your child thrive, you spend most of time just trying to survive!
What is the ultimate you want from for your child? Have you asked yourself? Our goal should be to make them better citizens of our country, loving, caring and compassionate individuals and should be susceptible to changes in the near future. They should have a happy, healthy and fulfilling life.
But how much time do you spend on working towards those goals?
If you’re like most parents, you probably spend most of the time just trying to get through the day. To not let the survival mode dominate your life. Teach your child to be happy in all situations. Always see the positive side of any situation.
#8. Avoid negative reactions
Always try and avoid emotional reactions, such as anger, sarcasm, screeming and comparisons. If your child has problems with control, negativity will only make him or her feel worse. Use short and mild suggestions to remind your child to focus, like “pay attention ”, “ You are disturbing everyone”.
#9 Don't give up on your child, ever!
All of your child's problems can be worked through with understanding, goodwill, and perseverance. With proper parental support, even the most troublesome teens can become amazing citizens in the future.
#10. Monitor your child’s use of the Internet.
This is a very important aspect of bringing up your child. The stuff kids can access in cyberspace can be dangerous. Get a program that will let you see the web sites they visit and monitor their chats.
Using scientific knowledge is by no means a one-size fits all strategy. Every child is different. You can and should adjust your parenting style accordingly. Lastly, “Parents have to accept that Life Changes when u have A Child”.